I was wearing this sweater, a couple days ago, when it happened. And then out of nowhere came this question. I thought she was complimenting me on my outfit but rather she was asking for it (in fact she asked more than once because I didn’t hear her the first time). The audacity.
At first, it caught me off guard. I didn’t answer. I mean really? Its one thing to ask to borrow something but another to ask about keeping something. Who does that?
After all, I like the sweater (I think I liked it better because she wanted it). It seemed of infinite more value in the face of this request. In fact, for awhile, I never wore it because I wasn’t sure what it went well with. But know, I wanted it.
So for the rest of our meeting, I fought this internal battle as to whether or not to relinquish the beloved sweater. I went over its value to me. Not really in monetary terms, since the sweater only cost me $3.29 at Goodwill but rather, in terms of the time, I spent looking for it and other items to add to my wardrobe. You see, most of the time, I don’t buy anything there so apparently when I do, I become quite attached. I guess its the quest that excites and entertains me. I was attached to the thrill of the hunt and its outcome (a practically brand new Gap sweater).
Back to the question… how could she ask for my sweater? I probably would never ask someone for their clothes or anything else of that they have. Its just not my personality. I have always been one to wait for someone to make an offer rather than seek one out.
Here are the results of my internal battle… a couple of reasons leading me to make my decision.
- I should not be overly attached to an item…
its certainly not the philosophy I want to live by.
- If someone has the audacity to ask, why not?
So I am giving her the sweater.
Thankful for the ask and the opportunity to give.
Thankful for the lesson a friend, goodwill sweater, and the Holy Spirit have to offer.
Sometimes sweater don’t fit. Thank the Lord.
Bonus, I get to keep the sweater and the lesson.